Pride & WTF

I took a chance when I decided to go out with a guy, Mr. B, who had once made a crude comment where he insinuated I was making my money from stripping. I thought to myself, "maybe he just has an odd way of flirting" or "he must get nervous and says the wrong things."
Why do we girls do this for guys? We should be screaming: REDFLAG REDFLAG
Instead, we opt to encourage them by giving them "chances" to be better people. We think, I can change this dude with my love.
No, no, and no. When the red flag comes up, run away screaming.

Mr. B and I went out. We had a nice time. He wanted to know more about me. He opened the door for me. He bought my drinks. He was different from all the guys prior because he seemed attentive and interested and seemed to listen. I liked him.

A month later we had sex. It was nothing special, but with practice, who knows, right?

The phone calls began to happen less and less.
He is late and, at one point, just never shows up to our date and never calls.

All signs point to IT'S OVER. You accept this, a little hurt, but you'll be okay.

Now, I feel as though the guys I meet are more interested in what my boobs look like than what I have to say. I tried casual and I can't casually date. The guy mentioned above? I totally liked him and wanted to get to know him more. I guess, in a way, I did get to know him more but in all the ways I didn't expect.

SIGNS YOU ARE DATING A CRAZY DUDE

1) When a guy doesn't call and ditches you frequently, you may think to yourself, "What am I doing wrong?" STOP. You have done nothing wrong. If he doesn't call and ditches you, all signs point to THIS GUY IS A LOSER. Break it off, move on. Right?

You then move to deleting the guy from your life. He is a flake. Why is your life any of his business now? You de-friend the guy on Facebook and he then immediately texts you with: "Of all the people, I would never think you would do this to me..." and sends a friend request on Facebook. This is the same guy who hasn't talked to you in a few days and left you waiting out in public on your date. Cool bro.

2) When you explain to the guy your feelings and he turns into the victim.

I have had several discussions with different guys about how I feel in our relationship. With the most recent guy, I explained how I cared about him, and that I felt he didn't share the same feelings. I opted to end the arrangement because I felt we wanted different things...I wanted more, he didn't want a relationship. I wanted to continue being friendly, no hard feelings. The guy then tells me that I "have a wall up" and that "I run away from him." Suddenly I am the reason he doesn't call back or flakes on everything? I thought telling someone you cared about them is like saying, heeeey sup, I tore this wall down, come on in.

3) This same guy also wanted a review of his sexual performance, and when I wouldn't tell him, decided that "he was just another guy to me" and I didn't care. SIGN: Telling me you got off thinking about me and want to know if you're different from my former sexual partners....uuuuh? You made me puke in my mouth, that's different.

4) In the middle of sex he says to you, "I don't want to get close to you." I'm just glad I got off before this was uttered into my ear.


I have the strange luck of meeting sad little boys.
I also believe in fairy tale endings and keep holding out for mine.

I wasn't asking you to be my boyfriend, I was trying to get to know you and get closer with the hopes that yes, maybe this would blossom into a relationship. I got to know you but not in the way I had hoped for and now I'm left feeling used and pathetic.